The biggest problem I had in communicating with the alcoholic was constantly reacting to his button pushing. He used to be able to send me into a rage with just the right words. Since I’ve been learning how to cope with alcoholics my communication skills have improved greatly.
I learned the three S’s acronym in an Al-anon meeting. This method of not reacting instantly to the alcoholic works wonders during a heated discussion.
Getting a handle on the things that come out of my mouth has been a difficult task. Taking the time to step back, shut up and smile really helps me have self-control over not saying hurtful things. It’s amazing how three seconds of discipline can make a world of difference in what comes out of my mouth. It’s like having a reminder to take a moment and think in order to determine if I actually want to respond to the alcoholic or not.