It doesn’t make sense at all that the family members of active alcoholics would need to start a recovery program. The general mindset is why should the non-alcoholic need to get involved with a recovery program? I mean after all it’s them who have the problem right? Wrong! What happens is that through the course of time dysfunctional behaviors begin to filter all through the family and everyone who has regular contact with the problem drinker suffers behavioral changes.
If you think about it for a moment, when was the last time you were around the person who drinks a lot and were not analyzing them wondering if they have had anything to drink today? That’s what I’m talking about. We as friends, family members and co-workers get obsessed with the alcoholics actions. When they are not around us, we wonder if they are drinking. When they are around us we wonder if they have been drinking. As they leave the house we question if they really are going to go where they said or if they will end up in a bar somewhere. This is why detachment from an alcoholic is so important to learn about.
We do need to get into some sort of recovery program for the family members because living with an alcoholic is just too much for us to deal with. We do have problems with trying to control them and obsessing over all of the things that they are constantly doing. Is there constant arguing that happens in your home? Does it seem as though you are walking on egg shells all of the time? These are all indicators that change must happen in your life.
The best way to initiate positive changes in respect to the alcoholism situation that you are dealing with is by getting involved in a recovery program for friends and family members of alcoholics. Al-anon is a program that really works.
Even if they are drinking alcohol or not you should get involved in a recovery program. Many people think that when he alcoholic gets recovery then that’s when I will get involved, but it doesn’t work that way. The sooner you can get help for you the better off your life will become. Listen, I’ve said this time and time again, they are not going to stop the crazy behavior so you must initiate change. Learning how to let go of the alcoholic and make positive changes in your life is going to be an incredibly freeing thing.