It is not healthy to be constantly thinking about anyone, let alone the alcoholic in your life. For some reason though, an alcoholic causes our thinking to get really out of whack. If this sounds like what you are dealing with, I have a few suggestions to help you be able to get control of your thoughts.
Getting Control of Your Thoughts
This is easier said than done, but you can achieve great success if you apply a few basic principles to your personal life.
First, realize that the alcoholic is NOT going to QUIT DRINKING!
So, your only option is for you to change your behaviors and start doing things differently. I know this may come as a shock because we all want the person we love to quit. The truth of the matter is that you have tried everything you can think of and so have I, but they continue to chase after the booze.
All of our best efforts to get them to quit drinking alcoholic have failed.
Al-anon has a slogan that says; “Let it begin with me.” This is where we must start.
Here is the best advice I can give you. Get a life for yourself by doing things that you enjoy rather than waiting for the alcoholic to change and make you happy. This is your responsibility in life to find and maintain your own happiness.
Start taking interest in something other than the problem drinker!
- Go bowling with a friend
- Take up knitting
- Start exercising
- Join a alcoholism support group
- Go to the movies
- Volunteer at the local library
- Get involved with your church
- Play a musical instrument
- Start a blog online
- Write a book
- Go fishing
There are literally a millions things that you and I can do to stop our habitual behavior patterns as they relate to thinking about an alcoholic all of the time. One of the methods that I use to stop constantly thinking about an alcoholic when they upset me is to go for a long walk with my Ipod. The physical exercise helps with the aggression I am feeling and the music helps me stop thinking about what they are doing.
As always, I suggest that you get involved in an alcoholism support group meeting. It will be there that you will learn how to quit constantly thinking about what the alcoholic is or is not doing.