It seems that when we live in a life filled with active drug and alcohol use, there are times when it’s hard to forgive the alcoholic. At one point in my life the pain of the continued let downs by the problem drinker got so intense that I wondered: “how on earth will I ever get over some of the things happening? The good news for me was that I loved the person so much that it was very difficult for me to hold on to a grudge for very long. I do recall at one point having to desperately seek God to help me let go of the anger I was dealing with at the time.
Sadly enough, many family members do hold on to things that they should have let go of a long time ago. When we choose to not forgive the alcoholic there’s a ripple effect that happens throughout the entire family. A root of bitterness is allowed to grow deeper and become what is known as a stronghold in our lives. When this happens, one fall out between a brother and sister could cause many people to be effected, especially if the two of them have children. The bitterness works its way into the lives of everyone interconnected in the family.
I personally think that adopting the teaching from Jesus on this subject of how many times should we forgive an alcoholic would be a good idea for the entire world. When Jesus was asked how many times that we should forgive, he replied: “seventy times seven.” That doesn’t leave any room for unforgiveness.
We must start each day new and fresh by letting go of hurts from the past and looking forward to enjoying the moments in the day we are living in. When we learn how to forgive an alcoholic in this manner, we can live a life free of guilt and shame. Listen, life is full of let-downs and hurts. We are no exception to the rule when it comes to failing in the sight of others. So, who do we think we are holding a grudge against another person for extended periods of time? This is a great article: Expressing Kindness To An Alcoholic
You may be thinking: “but you don’t know what the alcoholic did?” Get over it and forgive them. It’s much better for you and them if you put forth the effort to try and live at peace with them for another day. Listen, no one ever said that loving another person was going to be easy.
One of the ways we can express unconditional love to an alcoholic is through letting go of the wrongs they have done. It’s possible to forgive and love the problem drinker and not interact with them all of the time.
So that’s my view on how many times we must forgive an alcoholic. My answer to the question is all of the time… By doing so, we can eliminate resentment and rejection in many peoples lives. We are responsible for our own behavior, why not keep the slat clean by living a life filled with forgiveness.