Her ex-alcoholic husband is hitting a low point in his drinking adventures. Our staff doesn’t think she should rescue him; what do you think? Please leave a comment below the article.
Guest Post From:NM
Hi! I’m back. Its been a while. So, I left my alcoholic domestic partner of 21 years late October 2012. Its been a ride..he recently told me he knows where I live. That was a little bit devastating.
My home was my only safe place. At this time he has yet to come here, but has threatened to come. He described my front yard. It was a little scary for sure. He’s had his good nights and his bad nights. Some days he misses me some days he hates me. He quit his job. He is letting our house go into foreclosure. He had our cars repo’d. He sold most of our furniture. Now he has nowhere to go and he’s been begging me to give him one more chance.
He says he will stop and things will be different. I’ve gone out to dinner with him a few times. We went out of town to a sporting event one weekend. We’ve spent a few days together. We have three kids ages 9,4 and 2. He’s using the whole I’m different, I’ll stop, I want to change, please let me move in with you. I have no where to go. How can you leave me out in the cold.
I have no one else. You’ve taken my children from me. I’ve gone back and forth…yes, I will help him. He’s the father of my children, how can I abandon him at his lowest point…then heck no. I’m out I’m happy and I am learning to live! He won’t go to rehab.Says it costs too much or it will go on his record and affect future potential jobs, he would miss time with his kids. I know what the answer to this is.
I know I shouldn’t. I know he is close to hitting his lowest point. I know that’s what needs to happen to see any change, good or bad. He threatens to leave forever if I don’t help… stuff like that makes me feel bad and want to help him. This is killing me. I can’t relax. I can’t move on. I’m still under his spell. I can’t seem to shake it. I need reassurance or guidance. What are your thoughts?