The very first thing to note is that the alcoholic spouse needs to be ready to go into treatment or else we are wasting our time trying to force them to go. How we get them to the place of being ready to go into treatment can be a complicated process. The main things we must learn are how to stop being an enabler and how to stop rescuing the substance abuser.
Once we learn how to let go of an alcohol abuser in our lives and allow them to suffer the consequences of their poor choices, then there’s a chance they will hit bottom and ask for help. There are a few good ideas in this article about how to have tough love with an alcoholic.
In any case, we should always be prepared for when the day will come when our spouse says, “I want to go into a rehabilitation program. This is vitally important! The reason being is that when a problem drinker hits bottom you have to be ready to move fast. There are some things that can be researched ahead of time in order to make the admission into a treatment facility go smoother.
Know Your Insurance Policy
This is critical to the success of admitting an alcoholic quickly into a rehab. You want to know in advance what treatment places accept your insurance and what your options will be for treating the alcoholic. You will also be able to get an idea of what your financial obligations will be.
Know Where The Free Rehab Centers Are In Your Area
I live in South Florida. In our city we have several drug and alcohol rehab places where an alcoholic spouse can get help without any financial obligations to satisfy in order for them to be admitted. Two of the treatment centers have work programs that the alcoholics are required to participate in once they have remained clean and sober for an extended period of time. Once working, a percentage of the substance abusers paycheck is required by the treatment center in order for them to continue in the program.
The first place I always recommend checking is the Salvation Army. I have had several friends who have successfully stayed sober for many years after they went through the Salvation Army’s treatment center for alcoholism.
I wouldn’t hesitate to research treatment centers through having personal sit down interviews, if possible, with the administrations you are interested in knowing more about.
Moving With Urgency
You’ve got to be ready move when it’s time to get an alcoholic spouse into treatment. It just takes too much time to try and pull it all together quickly when you are not prepared.
I remember when one of my peers came to me the day they hit bottom and wanted to go into a treatment center. They were ready to be admitted that very moment. I mean, like right this very instant and they were dead serious about their decision.
It actually took us a week to make the arrangements to get her into a detox center while she was being approved for a twenty eight day rehabilitation program. I was so scared that she was going to change her mind in those days of waiting. There was no indication that she was nearing the place of hitting her bottom. Her decision took us all by surprise.
It wasn’t until she was released from treatment that she became brutally honest with me and told me what it was like when she hit bottom. She had reached a point where she was so sick of all the deceitful things that she was doing like, manipulating, stealing and lying all of the time. She told me that she had been living with a constant state of fear that she was going to get caught stealing controlled substances from her place of employment.
Her addictions had taken her to the pits of being someone who she never had intended to become, a manipulative lying thief.
I’ve said this often, we never know when the alcoholic is going to hit bottom and cry out for help. As friends, spouses and family members, it’s our responsibility to be ready to move quickly in an attempt to help the alcoholic when they say they are ready to go into treatment for their alcoholism.
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