Sent in by: Marcia
I have a question: I understand the not confronting and letting go with love concept as it relates to my alcoholic husband. My question is what if my husbands alcoholism gets worse and he puts his, my dogs and my own safety at risk?
Normally, if I tell him he’s drinking too much or that I don’t approve of him going out to get more beer, he won’t. He will listen to me; he’ll be upset too, but he’ll listen and go to bed. So, if I stop helping him keep it in check, then his drinking will get worse.
I already know it’s not my responsibility to keep tabs on how much he drinks, but I am just afraid if I don’t and I’m not home and he is with the dogs, something might happen to him or the dogs. This has happened before.
He only drinks beer now, but a few years back he was drinking beer and doing shots. I came home from work one day and walked into the house with a lit cigarette and the house smelled really bad of gas. He was passed out and the dogs were in the house. The alcoholic used the stove and forgot to turn off the burners. There was no fire but there was the gas smell throughout the house.
That was it. I told him I wanted a divorce if he didn’t get his shit together. It took him about a month but he finally got off the shots. Now every time he acts more drunk than a 40 oz and a few 24 oz cans should get him,
I am always paranoid that he has started the shots again. He drinks everyday. He has done so for the past 10 yrs. He’s been drinking since he was 15 yrs old, he is now 48.
I am tired, angry and anxious pretty much all the time. I am tired of confronting him. I am angry because he keeps lying to my face and I can’t control his behavior or his drinking. I am always anxious worrying about him killing himself slowly but surely.
Which brings me to my next point. He also has hepatitis c, so his liver is suspect in addition to the drinking. I am not working, he is. I have no vehicle. There are no kids involved, thank God. But my dogs are like my kids so…
I would appreciate it if you would respond to me with an answer to my question: How should I handle this situation where the alcoholic is getting worse and putting people and pets at risk of being hurt or even killed?
Thank you for reading this.
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