Have you ever been caught totally off guard and suddenly you were furious about something the alcoholic did or didn’t do? What are some of the ways you deal with your anger?
Just the other day I had a horrible bout with feeling angry about several things. Actually, I was furious to the point of not being able to have much self control. My emotions were way off balance, so much that I felt intense anger for about ten hours. I was overtaken and extremely uncomfortable with what I was feeling and just couldn’t seem to shake the negative emotions. I lost a lot of sleep, said things I shouldn’t have said and caused hurt and pain in someone that I really love.
Here are a few of the things I did in an attempt to relive my frustrations:
- I went to an Al-anon meeting. If you’ve never been to Al-anon consider going. It’s an organization designed to help people like me and you deal with alcoholics.
- I wrote in my journal. I wrote in it several times because I could not get rid of the anger.
- I went for a very long walk with a friend and talked about the things that were bothering me.
- I attempted to discuss a few of the things I was angry about with the person I was upset with.
- I accepted that what I was feeling was okay.
- I screamed out loud a couple of times, once in my apartment and the other was while driving in my car.
- I treated myself to my favorite breakfast meal, bacon, toast and two over easy eggs.
Anger is an emotion that should be felt. We can also accept that it’s okay to be angry. How we deal with the anger is the important thing.
One of my favorite blogs to keep up with is called “So What I Really Meant.” In one of Alison Paulson’s articles about being angry she writes this:
“Anger can be a powerful emotion. In threatening circumstances, anger can be a potent means to scare away others, to command action, or to maintain your boundaries.
In many circumstances, however, showing raw anger prevents understanding and perpetuates pain or loss.”
How do you deal with things when you get very irritated? Do you isolate or get really depressed when intense negative feelings overtake you? Do you scream at people when you are mad at them? Do you write letters to people or emails in an attempt to resolve issues? Do you release your frustrations verbally through cursing or spouting off? What is it that you do to finally overcome being angry at an alcoholic or anyone? Is anger just a symptom of a problem?
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