Guest Post By:Gigi
I met my husband at church. Up until we married after dating 2 years, I was very involved with church and had many friends. Soon after the wedding I realized he was hiding alcohol in the garage, the truck and the toolbox of the truck and he was drinking every night. We are still married 16 years later and it has been a living hell. We thankfully don’t have children together, but have children from our former spouses.
My husband allows his adult children to call me names and disrespect me in our home so I have decided to not be around any of them. Last night he tried locking me out of the house again. He threatens to change the locks, turn off the electricity, water and cable and I just tell him to go ahead.
My husband also has an addiction to porn which has completely stopped all intimacy with me. I got tired of him using my body to perform what he just viewed online while drinking. My husband tells me that if I would just go to church with him we would have a better marriage. I stopped going because I couldn’t take his constantly trying to use Scripture on me to show where I’m wrong and he’s okay to drink every night to the point of passing out.
I’ve tried counseling and Al-anon and it has helped to a certain point. I’m listening to your recordings and watching your YouTube videos because I needed a reminder about not letting him get me to argue. That is hard to do when he locks me out of the house on a cold night because I went to visit a girl friend that I’m not supposed to have.
People ask why I stay and my only answer is for financial reasons. I’m 56 with no college education and don’t make enough to survive, I’m sure that’s not a good enough reason to stay, but I do. I can’t believe that someone who calls themselves Christian could have and addiction to alcohol and porn.
JC:Thanks for your submission Gigi. Here’s a link to an excellent article that one of our readers sent in a couple of months ago: Christian Woman Married To An Abusive Alcoholic
I think you will benefit from this video as well about finding happiness within a Christian marriage:
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