Prior to getting involved in support group meetings I was always defeated by the alcoholic’s actions.
- When the alcoholic in my life stayed out all night, I was always an emotional wreck the next day, mainly because I hadn’t hardly slept.
- When the alcoholic started an argument, sometimes it would take me days to get my head back in order…only to be faced with yet another upsetting incident that surrounded the actions of the alcoholic in my life.
- I use to confront the lies in an attempt to get the alcoholic to fess up to the truth, something she never did. The only thing that ever became of my attempts was me being frustrated.
- On many occasions, when the alcoholic in my life would break plans, I would criticize and ridicule her for being so unthoughtful. This always created a very intense argument.
- Honestly, from the time I woke up in the morning until I went to sleep, my subconscious and conscious thoughts were fixed on the alcoholic’s behaviors.
After getting involved in support group meetings, my interactions with the alcoholic changed.
- When the alcoholic would stay out all night, I learned there was little I could do about it. As a result, I achieved serenity through letting go of the situation and going to sleep.
- I started to recognize how the alcoholic was starting arguments all of the time and how to avoid accepting the invitations to fight. This was an amazing accomplishment because prior to support group meetings we argued all of the time. I learn how to never argue with an alcoholic.
- When the alcoholic would break plans that we had made, I learned how to have an alternate plan. In doing so, I was able to let go of the disappointment and forgive the alcoholic for not treating me as a priority.
- As far as confronting the lies, I totally realized that is a waste of time and stopped that sort of thing altogether.
- I can honestly say that the obsession with the alcoholic subsided and I started focusing on more positive things in my life.
If you are or have been involved in support group meetings, for friends or family of alcoholics, what changes have occurred in your life? Leave your comments below.