The person in your life is in recovery now, perhaps a treatment program or AA meetings. Preparing the home to be alcohol free is a very important aspect of helping them to stay sober. Yes, the house should be totally free from any and all alcohol.
In fact, if you do not clear out all the booze because you like to drink, you’re a self-centered person.
Leave me as many comments as you like about that statement.
I am here writing this post to be an alcoholic’s friend, not their enemy!
In war, the opposing side or enemy sets land mines to destroy lives. As far as I’m concerned, if you leave alcohol in the house where a recovering alcoholic lives, you are just making life harder on them. You are setting them up to fall!
Why would you want to do such a thing? I’ll tell you why, it’s called being self-centered!
Another way of getting the home prepared for someone who is getting sober is by attending support group meetings. This is something that should be high on the priority list. Al-anon is a great place to start with your own healing. .
You are going to need all the help you can get in understanding an alcoholic’s behaviors, especially now that they are not drinking. By attending these meetings regularly, reading the literature and interacting with members of your groups, you will begin your own recovery.
I know you have been thinking all this time;
“It’s all their fault.”
Well, I hate to be the bearer of bad news, “but” you are sick as well. What happens as we live in the middle of this crazy dysfunctional disease is that we become obsessed with the alcoholic. They literally are on our minds all of the time. You need to learn how to overcome focusing on the alcoholic all of the time.
The old cliché; “out of site out of mind” does not apply to us when dealing with an active addict.
They are with our thoughts twenty four seven!
Just because they have quit their drinking addiction does not mean that life is going to be fine at home. Many people say that living with a recovering alcoholic is like a night and day experience.
You have to understand that they are having to feel every little thing without medicating their bodies to avoid the feelings now. This generally brings a high level of stress into the home for just a little while. It’s important for you to get the right tools from places like Al-anon to help you deal with them.
Everyone in the family should express their feelings to the person who has quit drinking in a positive way. It’s a good thing to tell them that you are glad they have decided to stop.
Really, when preparing for things to be different in the home, much of the family business should continue as usual. The bills still have to be paid so, a leave of absence is not a necessary thing. The kids must still go to school and do their homework. The family vacation must still be planned and the pets still have to be fed.
The most important thing I can leave you with is…Trust God!
I would love to hear your thoughts on these matters please feel free to comment.