If you’ve been with someone who has a drinking problem for a while, then you know the stress associated with being in a dysfunctional relationship with an alcoholic. You may be feeling lonely, frustrated, hurt, disappointed, depressed or angry and not fully understand why.
In this article, I’m going to share with you some things that can help reduce the stress levels that seem out of control in your life. We are going to look at a few proven methods of coping with an alcoholic that can help you get rid of the knots in your stomach. I wish I could actually tell you how to make the problem drinker in your life quit, but I can’t. However, the tips I share with you will work wonders in your life of applied with persistence.
I hope that you will take the time to click on the links you find throughout this content and educate yourself further about how to better handle this difficult situation you have found yourself in.
Here are a few stress relievers:
1-Get Your Own Life-I don’t mean leave the alcoholic. What I am suggesting is that you make a list of things that you absolutely love to do as an individual and start doing some of those things. It will help you get your mind off of the dysfunctional addict that you have no control over.
2-Get Involved In A Support Group-We always suggest Al-anon here. It is a globally recognized, not for profit organization that has helped millions of people who have alcoholic/addicts in their lives.
3-Exercise-This is a great stress reliever. If you can work on being disciplined enough to not release all of your anger and frustrations out on the alcoholic and go for a walk, swim or jog instead, I think you will find a greater amount of serenity in your life.
4-Talk To Others-Instead of blasting the alcoholic with all of your built-up frustrations, let them out on a really close friend who understands you and will not judge you. The ideal person would be someone who can just be a good listener. If you get involved with a support group, you will begin to meet such people who are willing to take your phone calls just about anytime, day or night.
5-Stop Obsessing About The Alcoholic–The link provided will teach you a few ways to try and calm your mind from thinking about them all of the time.
6-Don’t Stay On The Fence-When we are in a double-minded state it’s difficult to have any peace in our lives. Should I stay or should I go? Do I love the alcoholic or do I hate them? Should I loan them money or not? Do I kick them out of the house or let them stay? Staying in a grey area is never a safe place to be, you just keep turning with turmoil in the rough waters of indecision. The sooner you can make up your mind to love the alcoholic without conditions, the better off your stress levels will be.
7-Stop Snooping Around In Their Stuff-This is something that will just add fuel to the fire of stressors in your brain. When we go through their things we only find partial clues as to what they have been doing. The problem with these little bits is that they cause our minds to race in an attempt to figure out the entire story. This is just insanity at it’s peak and should be avoided at all costs. Don’t look at text messages. Avoid listening to their phone messages. Poking around in their email accounts or phone records is a no, no. Riding by their place of employment to see if they are really working is a form of stalking. If you want to know how to reduce the stress of being with an alcoholic/addict, make a list of all the things you do to check up on them and stop doing those things.
8-Understand You Cannot Control Anyone-We were all given the ability to choose how we want to live our lives. The alcoholic is driven by their addiction and therefore the choices they make are not something we have any control over. Learn how to let go of an alcoholic and you will have less stress in your life.
Many people learn how to cope with an alcoholic and can stay in a relationship with them. Others decide that they have had enough of the insanity that accompanies being in a relationship with an alcoholic and sever all ties. You can greatly reduce the stress that you are under by getting educated from people who understand how to function within these dysfunctional relationships. As I said, if you apply the things I’ve suggested in this article you will find that the stress of being with an addict can be reduced greatly. It is very possible to live with them and love them while enjoying your life without getting all consumed and entangled in their addictive behaviors. Detachment from the alcoholic is the key to finding more peace in your life. So do all that you can to learn how to separate your thoughts from revolving around the addict in your life.