Submitted by: “Confused”
My husband is a highly functional alcoholic and drug user. He said he only uses drugs when he has had too much beer. He pays the mortgage and his truck note. But he will spend 200-500 dollars easily on his crack cocaine addiction.
Whenever he uses it, he stays gone all night. When he comes home, sometimes 24 hours later, he is apologetic and wants to get help for himself. After a day or so when he is back to normal, he doesn’t have time to get help because he is too busy working (he has his own business). And this is when process starts all over again. It’s a merry go round.
He is nice when he is drunk and kinda mean when he is not. When he is drunk he comes home, eats and goes right to bed, no matter what time it is. Well, I’m tired of the promises, lies, and I can’t depend on him for nothing. I am a Christian and I’m confused as to whether I should stay here with him or get out and let him hit rock bottom. Help.
JC: Confused, my first thought was for you to press into your relationship with God like never before. Seek His guidance intensely through reading the word, prayer and worship(specifically through music). Desire to be led by God every step of the way during this journey. You can trust God! Stand upon your morals and beliefs during this time with an unwavering faith. Consider seeking wise council from your pastor and get involved in Al-anon. Avoid making major life altering decisions in anger.
I have a few questions:
1) Is your alcoholic husband physically abusive?
2) Do you think he would go into a free treatment program? If so, I’d recommend Loving Hands.
3) Can you afford to temporarily separate without divorcing?
4) How often does your husband use crack cocaine?
5) What is your heart’s desire in this situation?
6) Is your husband a Christian?
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