The following is a guest submission from someone who exposed a friend’s drinking problem to his family members. In exposing his alcoholism the friendship seems to be in jeopardy. Please feel free to leave a comment below the article.
Submitted By: Cindy
I have watched one of my closest friends spiral out of control with his drinking for the last six months. Looking back it has been longer I just didn’t put the pieces together. About three weeks ago I decided I couldn’t watch it anymore. I had to do something even if it means losing his friendship. It was just a matter of time before his drinking killed him. I could sense it.
So, I went to his family and gave them all the information I could because he lied to them about his alcohol consumption. It was hard as I betrayed his trust in me, but I had to and I know that. He agreed to go to detox and has completed that and is in outpatient now. But he still hasn’t talked to me. This has really hurt me. I never wanted to loose him and now I fear I have. I know it’s most important that he get better and that’s all that matters. I want to know how I stop feeling so bad about all of this. Even though it was the right thing to do why does it hurt me so much?
JC: Cindy, thanks for sharing your story. My first two thoughts were, if he stays in a rehab he will eventually view your actions as good. If he continues to drink the chances are good he will return to you in some time of need. It’s difficult to lose an alcoholic’s friendship. They somehow always manage to find their way back into our lives. Check out this short video on Finding Serenity Again. I think the pathway to you feeling better can be found through letting go of the problem drinker.