The following is a guest post from Claudia. Her husband has had a drinking problem for many years. Recently he has been having blackouts when he drinks too much and can’t remember anything afterward. His alcoholism is causing major disruptions in their family. Claudia is hoping to find help for her husband.
Guest post by: Claudia
I have read everyone’s comments, experiences, results, and testimonials. I honestly thought that I was alone in this journey and didn’t realize how big this is. Sometimes I feel like this is beyond my control and just want to give up on everything but then I look at my children and I know how much we love my husband/their dad and that alone gives me so much strength to keep going.
I have been married for 20 years and like all marriages we’ve had our ups and we’ve had our downs but we are still fighting to make it with lots of prayer and hope. I still don’t think I know how to cope with a lot of the different situations and scenarios that I’m faced with.
Good Video Explaining Blackouts:
I can go on and on and on but the real problem is alcohol and the effects it has on my husband. He’s not violent towards the kids or me but he becomes invincible and says really mean things especially to my oldest and to me (Verbally Abusive Alcoholic). We ignore it because we just are used to ignoring it. In the last month he has started to black out as a matter of fact he’s had two within the last two weeks. This last one was really bad he doesn’t even remember anything that happened and woke up with a black-eye that he has had now for almost a week.
I told him very calmly that from now on if he says he is going to drink I am not going to say anything to him. I’m going to leave it up to him because I have honestly tried to help him and am finished. In the past he has bean clean for eight months before, of course this was years ago. Now it’s to the point where if he promises me today that he’s not gonna drink or that he is going to quit, he can go maybe two days or three and then he’ll find an excuse to drink again.
I advised him that I am not putting my kids through any more turmoil anymore, especially having them hear his dirty talk. I’m stressed out. I’m really trying hard to keep it together he hasn’t had a drop of anything since Friday night and it’s been really nice at home without him drinking. I just know in my heart and I can feel it in my stomach that he is going to drink again. I need to find him some help but I need him to want this help I find for him (Preparing For An Alcoholic To Hit Bottom).
Thank you all for listening.
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