I’ve been married to an alcoholic for 18 years. In the beginning, so much love, spoiled me, made me feel so special. Yet, looking back it was dysfunctional because I would have to put him back together after alcoholic meltdowns.
We have 4 sons, 2 of which are not his that he helped raise. My oldest left at age of 15 to live with his father. I stayed because we had a baby together. My son is now 26 and we are very close once again.
I am leaving my husband within 30 days. I have moved things out of the house, preparing my finances and taking my two younger boys 18, 15 with me. They are ready to leave. I never knew the meaning of “progressive” until now.
I don’t recognize the man I live with.
I moved out of our room 3 months ago, after he drove my youngest son in his car to a soccer tournament, while drinking out of a thermos. Luckily I had talked to my son about always running away from his father if he EVER felt unsafe. He asked his dad to pull over and that he had to pee. His father had become confused about where he was on the freeway and was talking gibberish. He was drunk! Driving my son on the freeway going 75 miles per hour!! This was when I moved out of our room and started my plan.
This man doesn’t care about his family. I lost my husband long long ago. I No longer wear my wedding ring. He’s mean, verbally abusive and a bully. Can’t wait to start my new life. I could write a book, I have the sickest stories.
JC: Maydays1, I am so sorry to hear that your family is going to split. I know this is an extremely difficult time for you. Please, if you are not already involved with Al-anon, try to find local support group meetings in your area. I have taken a moment to list some article below that you may be interested in reading. Consider taking some time to read the comments following the articles. I will be sending this article out to our community of readers. You will be getting some feedback in the comments section of this article.
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