In one of our recent posts there was a lot of interaction from our readers. I noticed a common thread throughout the comments, many of you highly esteemed the Al-anon program.
I’ve heard thousands of testimonials through the years of people who have had life-changing experiences as a result of participating in the program.
I’d love to hear about your experience with Al-anon. Please feel free to leave comments at the bottom of this page.
What is Al-anon?
“It is a fellowship of men, women and children whose lives have been affected by compulsive drinking of a family member or friend.”
When did the fellowship begin?
Does it cost money to participate?
No! One of the traditions of the program states: “we are fully self-supporting.” There is a basket that is past around during the meeting for donations. There is no obligation to contribute monetarily in exchange for participating.
My Testimony Of How Al-anon Has Helped Change My Life
My journey in finding the Al-anon program began when I had finally reached an unbelievable level of frustration with my alcoholic spouse. For years I had been irritated with how things were going in our family, but was able to tolerate all of the dysfunctional circumstances through maintaining a relationship with God.
As my alcoholic wife progressively got more addicted to prescription pills, the roller-coaster ride of intense emotions increased dramatically. For years I had been able to endure some occasional verbal abuse, but when she started using more harsh substances than alcohol, her erratic, abusive behavior was like a locomotive at times. As her disease progressed… so did the abuse. Eventually, I found myself being physically hit on too many occasions.
It seemed as though I never had a moment of peace during that season of my life. Form the time I awakened – until I would go to bed, my mind was consumed with thoughts revolving around our dysfunctional alcoholic relationship.
I finally found myself talking with someone who was in Alcoholics Anonymous about how awful things were at home. They told me I needed to try Al-anon. “What is Al-anon?” I replied. I had been attending AA for about three years at the time to ensure that I would not slip back into the death grip of alcoholism myself. I had no idea that there was a group of people that were helping one another cope with alcoholic relationships.
I remember looking up the phone number in the Yellow Pages and calling the hot-line. Someone guided me to the nearest meeting over the phone. That night was the beginning of my life changing forever and God answering a desperate cry for help.
I have since been a faithful participant in the fellowship for over ten years. I’ve learned how to deal with alcoholics through interacting with “wise” friends in the program, by attending meetings, reading literature, hands-on-experience and through maintaining a close relationship with God. One of my favorite things to say in an open meeting is: “I’ve met some of the best friends I’ve ever had in Al-anon.”
Al-anon is a place where people find help to relieve their frustrations, make lifelong friendships, discover the Courage To Change and learn how to live a much happier life. All of these things happen while some people are living with an alcoholic and others are not.
I attended meetings regularly for three years before my wife expressed she wanted to get divorced. During that time… I learned how to set boundaries, how to love an alcoholic without conditions, the importance of getting out of harm’s way, what an alcoholic’s personality is like and was given an entire arsenal of coping skills.
I can truly say, my life will never be the same because of the things I’ve learned through the Al-anon fellowship. Today, after ten years of participating, the principles of the program help me with many different types of relationships, not just ones with alcoholics.
I would love to hear your testimonials about the Al-anon fellowship. Please feel free to share your experience, strength and hope in the comments section below.