JC: Thanks for sharing your story. I can clearly see how unhealthy this situation has become for you. Since the alcoholic in your life has relapsed it’s possible that he will have a great struggle quitting again. I’ve heard many alcoholics share in AA that once they started drinking again it was very hard to stop. It sounds like you are on the right road by letting go of your boyfriend, detaching and taking care of yourself.
Guest Post By: Nombasa
I’m not sure If you still remember me I am a 28 year old lady, with my 30 year old boyfriend who drank 2 days after coming back from the rehabilitation center and he had an implant to help reduce cravings for alcohol. I got a scare when he had fits 6 times within 30 minutes, I then took him to hospital where he was admitted for a month and was diagnosed with hepatitis B and his liver is damaged. I thought he was gonna die the way he was so sick. He got discharged after that long illness, I almost fainted when I got home and found him drunk a week after he was discharged. I contacted his family to inform them about his drinking, he started abusing me physically (Being Abused By An Alcoholic) and his family started blaming me for his drinking as they said I should be taking care of him and making sure that he doesn’t drink.
That’s when I realized that I have to leave this man cause I’m afraid he’ll die and I will have to take the blame. This is really hurting as everyone is on my case and I’m in debt already cause of his drinking.
I am very much hurt about losing him. I miss him. I keep fighting the urge of taking him back in my life, but I know that I am doing myself a huge favor by getting out of this relationship with an alcoholic. I have realized that I can only wish that he stops drinking, but I cannot make him stop. Thank you so much for your lessons about alcoholism , they gave me a wake up call, as I was obsessed with his drinking. It’s time to move on.
Families and alcoholic friends, believe me he’ll only stop when he wants to not because you wish that he changes because they put their own lives in danger together with ours so they are selfish people.